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5 Tips to Help You Manage Both Your Job and Your Family

5 Tips to Help You Manage Both Your Job and Your FamilyBalancing your personal and professional life can be challenging, to say the least. Whether you are a mom or dad, let’s face it, it’s tough. It is virtually impossible to divide your attention and focus and give 100% to both. Many parents find themselves overcome with feelings of guilt and constant stress. And while many companies advertise that they are “family friendly” and promote balance, in reality many companies do not support the pursuit of one’s own passions and personal goals.

Here are 5 tips to help you manage both your job and your family:

1. Let go of the Guilt

This is the single, most important thing that you can do for yourself. Think positively. Focus on how your career benefits your family. You are contributing to your family’s financial well being. Maybe you are earning enough to save for college, or to take a family vacation. Your career allows for a lot of things that may not be possible if you were a stay-at-home parent. The next time you are online, check out some local mom blogs. They are a great place to find support.

2. Create Special Family Time

Creating special family time can help alleviate some of the stress and guilt associated with having a career. If you and your children know that you have something to look forward to each week, it will make that time away from home more manageable. Providing the family with the opportunity to bond will also allow them to gain understanding of your personal goals. They will want to be more supportive and they will become your personal cheerleaders instead of what can seem like an angry army. Bonding time can be anything from a sit-down family dinner to a movie night. Does your job often take you into the evening hours? There is no rule that states you must have a family dinner, so make it a family breakfast. Get creative! It’s the quality time that counts.

Also, be sure to give your family your undivided attention during this time. Don’t check email or voicemail. Let them know that they are your #1 priority.

3. Don’t neglect your Partner

Hockey schedules, homework, dentist appointments and an emergency trip to the grocery store to bake several dozen cupcakes for a school event the next day make it very easy to neglect your partner. In fact, they are often the first to get neglected. It is extremely important that you make your partner a priority. Schedule regular date nights for just the two of you. Communicate with them throughout the day, and not just about car pools and Christmas musicals. Talk to your partner the same way you did before you had children so that you don’t lose touch of your relationship. Your partner should be a partner in the true sense of the word.

4. Don’t Neglect Yourself

You simply cannot take care of anyone else if you don’t care for yourself. You need time to recharge your batteries; read a book, schedule a massage, attend a sporting event or a community festival. All too often, working parents neglect themselves in an effort to balance

everyone else’s activities and to make everyone else happy. Parents often experience feelings of guilt, holding on to the misconception that these things are selfish. The exact opposite is actually true. You are at your best when you are you. Relaxing and doing something you enjoy will allow you to do your work and manage your schedule with a clear head. You perform better when your body has had the opportunity to recharge and de-stress itself. Without this time, you will lose your sense of self and get burned out. This will affect your performance at work, your relationship with your kids at home, and your relationship with your partner.

5. Ask yourself, is it Time for a Change?

If you find that these things are not working for you, maybe it is time to find a career with flexibility. Some companies promote balance and some add to the guilt. What was working for you pre-children may not be right for you now. You want to find a company that supports you. Don’t expect corporate America to recognize or be concerned with how much you are needed at home. Your family is not a part of their bottom line.

Some careers offer far more flexibility than others while still allowing you to achieve your personal, professional goals. Real estate sales, nurses, photographers and writers are all examples of jobs that offer flexible schedules.

There is no single formula for balancing, every family is different. But hopefully these tips will help to guide you to a more balanced life.

 

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